You can thank one of my gym members for this topic...LOL. She sent this to me and told me that "It was me". I was so excited to write on this after I got this message that I couldn't stand it. I started writing this immediately after the message came in.
Some of you may not know but I call myself the "supportive not sympathetic" coach. I will support and back you up all day long but I truly don't feel sympathy for you if all you are doing is giving me excuses about why you can't get your shit together and make the lifestyle change you are after. We are all tired, broke, and have the ability to make those dreadful EXCUSES!
You are late for work? That is your fault. Didn't show up to the gym? That is your fault. Eat too much cake? That is your fault. Drink too much beer? That is your fault.
Why are we so quick to protect others and hold back the truth? Damn, society has gotten so soft. People are doing one of two things consistently these days- 1. Either being keyboard warriors and stirring the pot on social media so they can hide or 2. Lying to people's faces to save their feelings or save themselves from judgement. QUIT THAT SHIT!!! There is a difference between stirring a pot and giving honest feedback to someone's face and some of you need to learn that difference. And F@#$ saving yourself or the feelings of others because once someone finds out that you didn't tell them the truth, that is a whole issue by itself. You can't win for losing anyway. People are gonna talk shit, so at least be known for an honest person instead of a keyboard warrior, liar or pot stirrer.
Let me use the gym for an example here. I have multiple members who joke (or not...LOL) and tell me that the first week I hurt their feelings. But ya know what? These people are still with me and they are making more progress than the ones that flaked out and now they are thankful for the "coaching". As someone who has been in management a very long time, I have learned that you can't talk to everyone the same but you can give consistent feedback. If you are in the gym week one, chances are you are doing something that needs to be corrected. We all start somewhere and if I don't tell you how to correct things for your future sessions, then what are you paying me for?
In a work setting, real time consistent and HONEST feedback is important too. Who the hell wants to go 6 months and not know they are doing something wrong or against policy? NOBODY THAT'S A DECENT EMPLOYEE!!! Also, who wants to have shit talked behind their back by other employees and find out about it later? NOBODY! You can be a weak-minded individual who tries to do this but in the end you only look like an idiot. Just be honest and up front. Trust me..... you won't get my trust or respect after an escapade like this, or anyone else's respect for that matter.
And your kids and family are also an issue here. Don't lie to your kids. Tell them if they aren't doing something good enough because trust me if you don't do it now someone else will later. Wouldn't you rather this come from you than someone else. Famly relationships are complicated too. Just be honest and tell people the truth. Your niece is a hoodlum and needs some discipline..TELL THEM if it comes up! Your dad is an enabler of your siblings...TELL HIM if it's important to point out.
Shit people and people that have no goals of seriously bettering themselves are the ONLY people that have an issue with consistent, real feedback. We all learn every day. And we should continue to learn every day...EVEN ME!
Everyone is so scared of reality. You can't change reality and you should always be real. Never apologize for who you are or what you feel. I am not by any means saying to run around and act like a jack ass to folks, but if you are asked your honest opinion give the honest opinion. If you have feedback that can help someone else, give the damn feedback. I mean Dr Now has got a whole tv show where he brings brutal, necessary honesty to the table and that is part of why he is successful.
If you want the truth don't ask me. If you want something sugar coated go eat a donut- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Stop hiding behind your fake relationship with Jesus and get a move on. Do you even know who you are?
LOVE,
:) COACH
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